The Process

Thank you, Deb, for the encouragement to write this. I called my friend in San Francisco tonight thinking that she would be home from the hospital today following surgery on Monday, and I could find out when to make arrangements to visit her again since I had heard yesterday that she was expected to live just 2-8 weeks. Her sister answered the phone and said that she was in the bedroom with Lief at that moment and things are moving fast. She said Lief is already experiencing labored breathing. So I asked her to whisper in her ear, "Nancy called and said to tell you she loves you." What more can a friend do when so many miles separate us! I have lit many candles in my home tonight - it is very quiet - my dog is cuddling with me on the couch and I'm thinking of playing a tape that I got from Lief several years ago by a group called "Dead Can Dance". It so perfectly represents the altered states that we have shared together at times over the years. How ironic! So I celebrate the life of my good friend who is such a healer to so many, and she has tried to teach me about the power of LOVE.... such a great friend. She said to me a fews years ago during some rough times, "Just call me if you ever need to remember who you are" .... and I have done just that a couple of times. I pray that she doesn't suffer.